"Thanksgiving is the language of heaven, and we had better start to learn it if we are not to be mere dumb aliens there." ... A. J. Gossip
What have I to be thankful for? Ah, this list is a long one, but I'll condense it for the sake of this blog:
A wonderful, wonderful wife name Jill who puts up with my many faults and encourages me in times of stress and grief. Jill is my very best friend here on earth.
My two boys, Nicholas and Peter, who are growing and learning. I see them take steps into manhood in a careful yet serious way, observing and studying, motivating and showing examples...and just plain learning to love the Lord more! I enjoy every moment I have with them.
My littlest one, Julianne, who is now 14 months. She's starting to walk. A baby in the house at my age (46 yrs) has made our place into a circus once again.
My dear, dear Lord and Savior Jesus the Messiah. He has been everything I could hope for and more. This Wednesday I debate an atheist in a public setting. Outside of the clear facts, how can I reach this man to let him know of the incredible love he is missing in his life?
Saturday, November 26, 2005
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
Faith
Ah, it's good to hear from my very precious friends from England, the Hyde family. In all reality, our hearts ache to see you again and laugh with you. How we miss staying at the "castle" in Steelton! What wonderful memories of precious Bible studies and the church in Bradford.
God bless you, Jeremy, Barb, Oscar, and Ou-Pa ... you will always be beloved in the Zockoll household.
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Two gentlemen boarded a coast-to-coast flight and were seated next to each other on the commercial plane. After breezing through the on-flight magazine, the first man turned to the other and asked, "What do you do?"
The gentleman replied: "I am a pastor of a church."
"Oh," said the first man quickly. "I don't believe in this religious stuff. It's for kids, you know, like the song 'Jesus Loves Me This I know, for the Bible tells me so...."
The minister politely laughed and asked the other man what he did for a living.
"I am an astronomer," said the first man.
"Oh, that stuff," said the minister. "I thought it was just for kids, you know - 'Twinkle, twinkle little star....'"
God bless you, Jeremy, Barb, Oscar, and Ou-Pa ... you will always be beloved in the Zockoll household.
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Two gentlemen boarded a coast-to-coast flight and were seated next to each other on the commercial plane. After breezing through the on-flight magazine, the first man turned to the other and asked, "What do you do?"
The gentleman replied: "I am a pastor of a church."
"Oh," said the first man quickly. "I don't believe in this religious stuff. It's for kids, you know, like the song 'Jesus Loves Me This I know, for the Bible tells me so...."
The minister politely laughed and asked the other man what he did for a living.
"I am an astronomer," said the first man.
"Oh, that stuff," said the minister. "I thought it was just for kids, you know - 'Twinkle, twinkle little star....'"
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
Relationship with Dad
My knees shook.
I was only nine years old. I was frightened and frustrated by the slowly unfolding scene before me. Nine year olds aren’t supposed to deal with this kind of fear. But there I stood, next to my four brothers and one sister, the oldest thirteen and the youngest six. We were all shoulder-to-shoulder in line, a sort of tragic/comedic pose that none of us had planned.
We stood in the small kitchen of our rural house in the outskirts of Hershey, Pennsylvania, carrying the same child-like feeling that this shouldn’t be happening. The six of us were openly crying, sobbing in children sobs, the racking kind that make little noises with each breath. My mom stood in the doorway of the room, staring across the room at my dad, arms folded and her jaw set.
This is summer time, and summer is supposed to be fun.
Yet there stood my father, hand on the doorknob, wearing sunglasses even though he was inside the house. He wore Bermuda shorts and a short-sleeve shirt and looked for all the world like a man about to pack his kids off for a day at the amusement park.
Except he was going, and we were staying.
“This is it,” my mom said, folding her arms. “Tell them, all six of them. You make your final choice. It’s either your mistress, or it’s your children. Make your choice. But tell it to their faces.”
I looked over for support from my older sister. Her cheeks were red and a tear rolled down the side of her nose. One of my brothers was crying so hard that he was gagging.
My dad looked at us, raised his hand slightly, waved and walked out the door.
There. It was done.
Except for the crying.
The dad that I had known all of my life, the man that brought home candy from business trips, the one who sat in a chair reading the newspaper and chuckling while we colored cartoon faces on his white socks, the father who taught me how to throw a football – that same man had closed the screen door, hopped into his Volvo and had gone to live with another woman. A night club musician, at that. He left my diligent Russian-heritage mom (who knew how to make incredible pierogis and kapusta) for a bespangled xylophone player who didn’t even know how to cook a Thanksgiving turkey.
As a nine-year old boy who was still learning the nuances of catching a baseball in a leather mitt and of trying to understand the necessity of Sunday School, this was the bulldozer that leveled everything. I didn’t realize it, but my childhood had been largely built around the safety and protection and character of my dad.
And now he was gone.
I sit and type this memory during a break in the classes in a private academy where I teach (the students are taking aptitude tests today, so I have a little bit of time on my hands). I feel a deep grieving within my chest that rises up and pushes tears to my eyes. This is still too fresh for me.
I take a break and leave the computer to take a quiet walk down the school hallways to get a coffee and try to compartmentalize this pain, push it back in the proper slots that all adults are supposed to have. I’m a teacher. I’ve been a pastor. I should be over this, right? This incident was over thirty years ago and yet I still feel as if someone had pushed me down and stepped on my chest with both feet.
How could anyone think that this was okay? Who makes the rules?
It reminds me of another childhood memory where, as a spectator at a local baseball game, I was hit with a batted ball, a looping shot that smashed into my skull and knocked me from my seat. As I fought the pain in my skull and spit the aluminum-like taste from my mouth, I noticed groups of teenagers doing a poor job of trying to hide their laughter. What could possibly make them think this was funny, I asked myself in more anguish than the pain brought, why can they not see that I am hurt?
How could anyone think this is okay? Who makes the rules? Why am I such a small player in the scheme of things?
At six-fifty this morning I sat at a local coffee shop and drank some dark roast, reflecting on the brutal childhood years of trying to deal with this rejection. I finger a small card that has a Latin phrase I’ve been studying while preparing my doctoral dissertation:
Coram Deo: “before the face of God. I suppose I should come up with a pithy saying that tells the reader of this magnificent God who watches over all, but I don’t get that out of this phrase …nope, not at all.
I don’t think of Him as being a God on a tower overlooking the football field of players. I see Him as the personal God who sits and has coffee with me. He wakes me in the morning with a quiet hello when I know He could just as easily send a splitting thunderclap or a jangling emergency.
I never remember my dad coming into my room – day or night – as I lay in bed as a child. I don’t remember him sitting and playing very many games with me. Once, as a ten year old, I sat with him and played a round of Scrabble, beating him on the last word. I could see in his eyes that he was upset. Dad, I want a partner to enjoy, not a competitor. And so went my post-divorce childhood life, filled with uncomfortable visitation trips and half-hearted holiday presents.
My dad didn’t watch over me in a living-room-and-kitchen kind of way. He made occasional visits in a mall-and-theater-type of way. Some kids would enjoy this. I detested it. But I didn’t detest Dad. I wasn’t mad at him…but I wasn’t happy with him either. He was sort of there, and I was sort of here, and it was just as much my part to go out to the car and get in for visitation as it was for him to drive down from Pennsylvania to pick me up. He initiated a scene by buying a gift that he assumed I would enjoy, and I finished the act by smiling and promising to play with whatever it was, even though I would probably have no use for the item. That’s the way it was – a balance between parent and child. That was normal, wasn’t it?
Well, that’s the way I saw God, too. He was polite, yet indifferent. That’s okay, I thought. I can work this out as well. God will initiate the scene by showing me a nice time in a large building with well-mannered adults who sang, listened to a long message, and had a nice pot-luck dinner once a month. My job was to sit still, listen to whatever sounded interesting, and make sure I ate enough of the main course so that I was allowed to have a generous hunk of Shoo-Fly Pie.
I think back on my childhood reflections and smile to myself, drawing a curious stare from a man sitting two tables away. How could I fully explain to him the quiet excitement I’ve felt in recent years, knowing that I made friends with a wonderful God who shares my joy and invites me to enjoy this Him for all eternity? I’d love to pull up a chair and start chatting, but I glance at the clock. I have seven minutes to get to school.
I was only nine years old. I was frightened and frustrated by the slowly unfolding scene before me. Nine year olds aren’t supposed to deal with this kind of fear. But there I stood, next to my four brothers and one sister, the oldest thirteen and the youngest six. We were all shoulder-to-shoulder in line, a sort of tragic/comedic pose that none of us had planned.
We stood in the small kitchen of our rural house in the outskirts of Hershey, Pennsylvania, carrying the same child-like feeling that this shouldn’t be happening. The six of us were openly crying, sobbing in children sobs, the racking kind that make little noises with each breath. My mom stood in the doorway of the room, staring across the room at my dad, arms folded and her jaw set.
This is summer time, and summer is supposed to be fun.
Yet there stood my father, hand on the doorknob, wearing sunglasses even though he was inside the house. He wore Bermuda shorts and a short-sleeve shirt and looked for all the world like a man about to pack his kids off for a day at the amusement park.
Except he was going, and we were staying.
“This is it,” my mom said, folding her arms. “Tell them, all six of them. You make your final choice. It’s either your mistress, or it’s your children. Make your choice. But tell it to their faces.”
I looked over for support from my older sister. Her cheeks were red and a tear rolled down the side of her nose. One of my brothers was crying so hard that he was gagging.
My dad looked at us, raised his hand slightly, waved and walked out the door.
There. It was done.
Except for the crying.
The dad that I had known all of my life, the man that brought home candy from business trips, the one who sat in a chair reading the newspaper and chuckling while we colored cartoon faces on his white socks, the father who taught me how to throw a football – that same man had closed the screen door, hopped into his Volvo and had gone to live with another woman. A night club musician, at that. He left my diligent Russian-heritage mom (who knew how to make incredible pierogis and kapusta) for a bespangled xylophone player who didn’t even know how to cook a Thanksgiving turkey.
As a nine-year old boy who was still learning the nuances of catching a baseball in a leather mitt and of trying to understand the necessity of Sunday School, this was the bulldozer that leveled everything. I didn’t realize it, but my childhood had been largely built around the safety and protection and character of my dad.
And now he was gone.
I sit and type this memory during a break in the classes in a private academy where I teach (the students are taking aptitude tests today, so I have a little bit of time on my hands). I feel a deep grieving within my chest that rises up and pushes tears to my eyes. This is still too fresh for me.
I take a break and leave the computer to take a quiet walk down the school hallways to get a coffee and try to compartmentalize this pain, push it back in the proper slots that all adults are supposed to have. I’m a teacher. I’ve been a pastor. I should be over this, right? This incident was over thirty years ago and yet I still feel as if someone had pushed me down and stepped on my chest with both feet.
How could anyone think that this was okay? Who makes the rules?
It reminds me of another childhood memory where, as a spectator at a local baseball game, I was hit with a batted ball, a looping shot that smashed into my skull and knocked me from my seat. As I fought the pain in my skull and spit the aluminum-like taste from my mouth, I noticed groups of teenagers doing a poor job of trying to hide their laughter. What could possibly make them think this was funny, I asked myself in more anguish than the pain brought, why can they not see that I am hurt?
How could anyone think this is okay? Who makes the rules? Why am I such a small player in the scheme of things?
At six-fifty this morning I sat at a local coffee shop and drank some dark roast, reflecting on the brutal childhood years of trying to deal with this rejection. I finger a small card that has a Latin phrase I’ve been studying while preparing my doctoral dissertation:
Coram Deo: “before the face of God. I suppose I should come up with a pithy saying that tells the reader of this magnificent God who watches over all, but I don’t get that out of this phrase …nope, not at all.
I don’t think of Him as being a God on a tower overlooking the football field of players. I see Him as the personal God who sits and has coffee with me. He wakes me in the morning with a quiet hello when I know He could just as easily send a splitting thunderclap or a jangling emergency.
I never remember my dad coming into my room – day or night – as I lay in bed as a child. I don’t remember him sitting and playing very many games with me. Once, as a ten year old, I sat with him and played a round of Scrabble, beating him on the last word. I could see in his eyes that he was upset. Dad, I want a partner to enjoy, not a competitor. And so went my post-divorce childhood life, filled with uncomfortable visitation trips and half-hearted holiday presents.
My dad didn’t watch over me in a living-room-and-kitchen kind of way. He made occasional visits in a mall-and-theater-type of way. Some kids would enjoy this. I detested it. But I didn’t detest Dad. I wasn’t mad at him…but I wasn’t happy with him either. He was sort of there, and I was sort of here, and it was just as much my part to go out to the car and get in for visitation as it was for him to drive down from Pennsylvania to pick me up. He initiated a scene by buying a gift that he assumed I would enjoy, and I finished the act by smiling and promising to play with whatever it was, even though I would probably have no use for the item. That’s the way it was – a balance between parent and child. That was normal, wasn’t it?
Well, that’s the way I saw God, too. He was polite, yet indifferent. That’s okay, I thought. I can work this out as well. God will initiate the scene by showing me a nice time in a large building with well-mannered adults who sang, listened to a long message, and had a nice pot-luck dinner once a month. My job was to sit still, listen to whatever sounded interesting, and make sure I ate enough of the main course so that I was allowed to have a generous hunk of Shoo-Fly Pie.
I think back on my childhood reflections and smile to myself, drawing a curious stare from a man sitting two tables away. How could I fully explain to him the quiet excitement I’ve felt in recent years, knowing that I made friends with a wonderful God who shares my joy and invites me to enjoy this Him for all eternity? I’d love to pull up a chair and start chatting, but I glance at the clock. I have seven minutes to get to school.
Wednesday, November 02, 2005
Secret code for Psalm 118
My back injury is hurting worse, and I have been wearing this brace for about three weeks.
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Maybe you have heard someone sing or recite the passage in Psalm 118: "This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it." It has more than one meaning!
There is more to it than just speaking about a nice day that the Lord is blessing us with.
Let me explain:
Psalms 113-118 are called the "Egyptian Hallel" which loosely comprises a treatise on God's redemptive work.
In other words, these Psalms are great reading not only for an uplifting praise of the Lord but also to tell of the freedom Christ gave to us when He went to the cross. Look at the following passage and see the problem facing the sinner who has no help and no hope, and then see what Christ does... (note: this is a prophetic Psalm!)
We can see Christ clearly first in Psalm 116:
"3 The sorrows of death compassed me, and the pains of hell got hold upon me: I found trouble and sorrow."
And again in 118:
"22 The stone which the builders refused is become the head stone of the corner. 23 This is the LORD's doing; it is marvellous in our eyes. 24 This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it."
In other words, the day that Christ made the step to sacrifice Himself for our sins is the day in which we rejoice!
Wow - great prophetic truth. May we not only thank Him for the day we have right now, but the day He allowed Himself to be put to death in order to make our salvation real!
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Maybe you have heard someone sing or recite the passage in Psalm 118: "This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it." It has more than one meaning!
There is more to it than just speaking about a nice day that the Lord is blessing us with.
Let me explain:
Psalms 113-118 are called the "Egyptian Hallel" which loosely comprises a treatise on God's redemptive work.
In other words, these Psalms are great reading not only for an uplifting praise of the Lord but also to tell of the freedom Christ gave to us when He went to the cross. Look at the following passage and see the problem facing the sinner who has no help and no hope, and then see what Christ does... (note: this is a prophetic Psalm!)
We can see Christ clearly first in Psalm 116:
"3 The sorrows of death compassed me, and the pains of hell got hold upon me: I found trouble and sorrow."
And again in 118:
"22 The stone which the builders refused is become the head stone of the corner. 23 This is the LORD's doing; it is marvellous in our eyes. 24 This is the day which the Lord hath made; we will rejoice and be glad in it."
In other words, the day that Christ made the step to sacrifice Himself for our sins is the day in which we rejoice!
Wow - great prophetic truth. May we not only thank Him for the day we have right now, but the day He allowed Himself to be put to death in order to make our salvation real!
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